“Disciplined people are more successful and happy”. Agree or disagree? We’ll come back to that…
Have you ever set a goal, gotten all excited and motivated, committed to it with every fiber of your being (Yes I WILL lose 20 pounds… Yes I WILL learn to play the guitar this year… Yes I WILL start and grow a profitable blog)… then gave up when the fire died, or it got too hard, or it took too long, or someone told you you couldn’t do it?
Has that happened to you more than once? Does it feel like it keeps happening to you?
If so, I soooo feel you.
I mean, I set SMART goals, plan it all out on paper and put it all into my calendar down to the last nitty-gritty detail.
But then I feel like I have to FIGHT SO HARD to NOT give up on my goals. I go through seasons of total unstoppable fire and then other seasons of feeling tired, bored, lazy and like my goals are silly and I should just watch Netflix instead.
What’s with this?! It’s frustrating, isn’t it?
We really want this thing. Not just kind of, but really really REALLY want it. So why the heck do we keep giving up?!
Turns out, it comes down to one word: DISCIPLINE.
Because the big secret I realized is this: MOTIVATION doesn’t last. I wish it did, because oh mama, doesn’t it feel like you’re on an amazing high when you’re motivated?!
You feel like you can take on the world! You feel like you can make a million bucks! You feel like you can walk into any room and OWN IT.
But then, you wake up the next day after a long night with a sick baby, and out of the corner of your eye you catch the huge pile of laundry staring at you from the open hall closet, and all of a sudden all of your fiery motivation is shot to hell.
Too dramatic? Nah, I think you feel me.
“Yeah, that’s great Candis. Glad you had this epiphany and all”, you’re saying, “but I already know I need to be more disciplined. I’m just… NOT.”
Okay, I hear you. I totally get it. Me neither. But we ain’t dead yet, sister!
What we are not yet, we can still become.
Once upon a time, scientists believed that our brains – and therefore our personalities, traits, habits and preferences – were hard-wired after childhood, unable to grow or change. But in recent decades, scientists and psychologists have discovered that our brains can continue to grow and change throughout our lives as a result of our interactions with our environment.
This concept is called “neuroplasticity”, and in short, it means we can change our habits and traits if we want to! We are not destined to stay in this seemingly endless cycle of motivation-rut-motivation-rut. Studies show that there’s a legitimate trick to getting yourself unstuck:
You need to set up a SYSTEM for your success.
In the eye-opening article “How to Motivate Yourself”, Stanford Behavior Scientist, BJ Fogg, shares that motivation comes in waves. We shouldn’t RELY on motivation alone, but instead leverage it to act right away in setting up a SYSTEM so we can be successful even when it fades:
“We should assume that our “future self” is going to be lazy with no motivation. We need to set up systems to make achieving our goals as easy as possible — even when our motivation is low.” For example, I was trying to form a gym habit. I’d get up in the morning planning to go, but after a few minutes decide not to. I discovered that if I put my gym clothes and my shoes next to my bed, I would put them on first thing and by that point, I “might as well” just go.
And this is what brings me to Shelby.
When I found myself stalling in my new business, constantly trying new strategies halfheartedly and whisking from one new tactic to the next without following through, I turned to my teammate Shelby Putnam.
From the moment I met her, it was clear that Shelby was an insanely disciplined person. Like WHOA disciplined.
She had her health and business goals down and took DAILY action in her business.
Just check out her transformation from our 30-Day Healthy Living program:
Pretty freaking remarkable, right?!
And even though the healthy living program is designed to make weight loss as easy as possible, the plain truth is that not everyone sticks with it. You don’t get these kinds of results unless you are committed and disciplined.
I mean, how many times have you sworn to yourself that you were going to eat healthy only to throw in the towel when hubby brought home Magnum chocolate ice cream bars? Ahem, not that that’s ever happened to me. Okay, maybe it has… moving on.
What’s more, Shelby was swiftly promoted to the next level in the business within months after starting and her business is exploding more and more every time we meet up or chat.
This month, she’s in the TOP 10 on our whole team (among hundreds of people) for personal sales and recruiting! That’s just crazy, y’all. I mean, I’m a California girl born and raised and I just said “y’all”. That’s gotta show you how impressed I am.
I mean, this girl has it figured out.
So a couple weeks ago I reached out to her and begged her to let me in on her secrets! Seriously, I left her an out-of-the-blue voice message on Voxer and was like, “Girl, tell me how you’re so freaking disciplined! Share your hacks, tips and secrets!”
(Well, the actual message was like 5 minutes long because I ramble, but that was the gist.)
And let me tell you! She dropped some knowledge bombs, ah-ha revelations, and tough love straight-talk.
Turns out this powerhouse was a 5x National Champion gymnast on the USA team and had the virtue of discipline instilled in her from a very young age.
Her tips were so helpful to me personally that I asked her if she’d let me share them with all of you! And of course she said yes, because she’s awesome like that (video interview below).
And you wanna know the really crazy thing? All of the 5 discipline hacks she shares lead to the same conclusion that the science shows: if you lack self-discipline, you need to set up a SYSTEM for yourself to succeed.
“Yeah, but how the heck do you DO THAT?? I mean, what, specifically, do you mean by setting up a system?”, you’re asking.
Watch our interview below to hear from Shelby herself. You can also scroll down below the video to get the bullet-points.
Okay, without further ado, get ready for some game-changing life advice!